Dear Blondie: A-Hole at the Table
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Dear Blondie is Dear Abby’s nerdy kid sister who hangs in the basement with a bunch of dorks and a pile of dice. The d20Blonde has experience navigating all sorts of sticky gaming-related etiquette situations. Now, she endeavors to make your lives easier by answering your RPG etiquette queries.
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Dear Blondie,
I am a brand new GM, and I’m running a fun, enjoyable, rules-light game for my husband and a bunch of his friends. One player is being a real pill, though. He is playing his character chaotic evil (even though he insists he’s not). He has tried to kill random NPCs just because they’re annoying, and has threatened to dominate all of the PCs (he’s playing a Psion). A lot of the players are feeling intimidated. We have all tried to tell him that his character is totally not cool, and I have refused to let him do a lot of the violent stuff he says he wants to do, but he keeps trying to do evil stuff any way.
He’s usually a pretty cool and funny guy, but his character is totally annoying. I am the youngest member of the group, the only woman, and the least experienced gamer. I think he’s really pushing the limits of what he can do as a player, because he doesn’t take me seriously. How can I make him respect me as a DM and listen to what I say?
Thanks,
Game Master N00b
Dear Noob,
You’re doing the right thing by enforcing your authority during game-play. Do you have a way to orchestrate in-game consequences for his actions?
During a similar situation many years ago, I was playing a Lawful Good Cleric who acted in a decidedly NOT GOOD way and killed a civilian. When I declared my action, the DM asked if I was sure my behavior was within my alignment. I shrugged it off because, dude, it’s D&D. KILL THAT GUY AND TAKE HIS STUFF!
The second his heart stopped beating, the DM requested my character sheet and promptly crossed off any and all spells and abilities that required my Lawful Good alignment. The next several adventures required me to atone for my transgressions in order to regain favor with my god. It gave me a much-needed lesson in humility.
If he doesn’t have an abilities specifically tied to his alignment, you could always toss out a magic item that has some badass specials that require him to be Good. See if giving him an additional d6 vs. undead or somesuch can motivate him to be less annoying.
In the event that in-game mechanics do not rein him in, you’ll need to confront him directly. Pull him aside alone (making a spectacle of someone is never a good idea) and speak with him bluntly. Tell him that you do not want to create an awkward situation, but you – and your players – have less fun when he insists on engaging in chaotic evil shenanigans in-game.
I know it’s hard to say, but you need to let him know that, if he continues to harsh the collective mellow of your group, he’ll need to find another set of gamers to play with.
Good luck, Noob!
Yours geekily,
d20Blonde

